In the workplace, it’s a good idea to project confidence, provided it’s not false confidence. When discussing with other professionals, know that it’s acceptable to pause for a few seconds before responding to a question. This lets the other person know that you’re giving the question serious consideration. Plus, it gives you time to develop an intelligent response.
You can also project confidence by avoiding filler words. It’s widely known that “um” and “uh” ought to be avoided. However, you might be using more filler words than you realize. Many people overuse the following words and phrases: “actually,” “just,” “to be honest,” and “you know.”
People may not be fully aware of the filler words they overuse. Ask your friends and family to help you identify the filler words you commonly use in conversations. Then, work on cutting them out of your vocabulary.
Another important consideration in verbal communication skills is the directness of your speech. In general, it’s best to be as direct and concise as possible. For example, instead of giving this vague feedback: “Josh, do you think you could work on improving that Flanders proposal?” you might say this: “Josh, will you have time to revise the Flanders proposal this afternoon? I have a list of suggestions I can email to you.”
Although directness is usually desirable, there may be times when it’s best to start the conversation in a less direct manner. For example, let’s say you know that your coworker, Josh, put a lot of effort into the Flanders proposal. However, the client isn’t satisfied.
So, you might start the conversation by saying something like: “Josh, I thought you did a great job on the Flanders proposal. It’s well-written and comprehensive. However, I do have a few suggestions for you.” Josh will be left with the impression that you appreciate his hard work and you understand the task was a difficult one.
You can also try these additional verbal communication tips:
- Ask for clarification when needed.
- Utilize various communication tools.
- Gain stronger insight by asking open-ended questions.
- Try to understand your audience better by imagining yourself in their shoes.
- Don’t be afraid to use office-appropriate humor when called for.
- Vary your tone of voice and use inflection but embrace an overall tone of voice that is friendly, warm and positive.
- If you must disagree with someone, try agreeing with them first. For example, say: “I definitely see that departmental spending was up last quarter, and that’s something we need to keep an eye on. However, do you think it had something to do with the increased workload?”
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